I actually wasn’t going to post this just yet, but opportunity knocked so I’m putting it out there, pre-maturely unedited and all. There’s plenty of time to expand on this in the future as I don’t think it’s an issue that will get solved all at once. But, as it is so often said, the journey of a thousand miles, does start with a single step.
It’s no doubt that we live in a world where women play just as hard as the men. The do, they plan, the push to get ahead, the fight back. These can all be useful skills but I feel we’ve lost a strong connection to our core nature in all this wanting to be more like our male counter parts. The result is that men are confused and the revered female yin beauty is, or should be anyway, widely sought after to bring the polarity back between the genders.
Women are increasingly dissatisfied in their relationshops with men becuase they keep trying to relate to men like men, thereby killing the polarity that makes the guy girl exchange so appealing and so satisfying. Even worse, when a female approaches a man in a masculine way, it’s more likely that he will let her take that role and assume a less leaderlike role which will leave her feeling even more disappointed. Over time, habitual roles are assumed by both players in the exchange and the risk of needs going unfulfilled grow wider and deeper. What’s even sadder, is when the roles get mixed up, no one gets to shine the way they should be.
Ladies!!! Learn to ask for what you need and want but to let that need be met by your counterparts. Learn to open yourself to the true essence of receiving. Strong women so often fall into I’ll-just-do-it-myself trap and never really learn to reach out or practice counting on men. The next time you find yourself in a situation where you’re tempted to step up for him, turn around and go do something else. Resist the urge to fill his shoes. Just smile at him and walk away, let him do what he’s good at. Figuring things out, finding solutions, tinkering. You’ll find yourself naturally moving towards what you’re really good at; appreciating, admiring, and just being. You don’t have have to DO anything to BE this way, actually the only thing you can do is to let go of doing and notice how the BEING just naturally happens.