building bridges

Apples and Oranges

Here’s what goes haywire in many relationships. Person A, Sophie, is expressing or seeking to fulfill a need; love, comfort, freedom, support, appreciation, respect, x,y,z… For Sophie, the fulfillment of this need is defined a by certain parameters. It can…


Look for what you are looking for

Words are powerful. How we use them has weight and impact on the shaping of our life experience.  It’s subtle, but still very powerful.  There’s a lot of information out there that teaches you how to use your languaging to…


What do I need to stop doing?

Most of my training has taught me to move people (and myself) TOWARDS an intended experience as opposed to away from an unwanted one.  But Rick Warren spells out an effective technique in his TED talk.  Before you do anything,…